Truth be told, I still remain mesmerised every day.
Thrown off by some action by this or that person, my own rule flawed.
I guess I too expect if not the best then a similar (shared) emotion from others.
I often tell her not to be surprised.
I now feel to tell her to cuss the crap out of those that use, that feel they can enforce their feelings on her, to those that take her kindness for a weakness
I can no longer say "why are you surprised" because genuinely, she should be.